social topic

2016-01-10 06:07:04 pm

Club 27 Goals

so apparently AT&T thinks I've managed to download 350GB in the last 10 days and are threatening me with a massive bill for going over my "allowed" limit of 100GB. Considering my internet can only download 250KB/s at BEST, the math just isn't adding up. Guess I'll have to give them a call

Firenukes777

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Firenukes777: 2019-06-04 08:21:42 am

2016-01-10 09:39:25 pm

Poision Envy

2016-01-11 12:21:09 am

Club 27 Goals

I kind of actually love long car trips now, especially if it's through somewhere I've never been. I put on a podcast or get in a call with a friend, or even better yet if I have a friend with me it's fun to listen to some stuff together.

arkarian

2016-01-11 12:21:55 am

red chamber dream

i like them as long i get to drive

Poision Envy

2016-01-11 12:25:24 am

Club 27 Goals

Yeah it was kind of funny to me when my dad used to live about 6 hours away. My mom and dad would meet halfway to drop me off, but she'd drive so damn slow. It'd take like 4 hours for her to get to the halfway point, and my dad 2 hours to get back.

Course though I had a GBA so like hell if I cared. i'm really glad I never got car sick

Opium

2016-01-11 12:47:32 am

One of the things I used to love about long family car trips was sleeping in the car. We had a van so I was able to lay down, and something about the vibration and the noise just made me super relaxed. It was like opium.

Poision Envy

2016-01-11 01:42:30 am

Club 27 Goals

"Most lonely people don't lack social skills. They just find themselves in lonely situations. However, loneliness can create a behavioral trap whereby lonely people focus on “I want this person to like me” in social situations, making themselves uninteresting to others in the process."

Another tragic example concerns lonely people. The lonely are interesting because it’s so tempting to say: "Oh, lonely people. Yeah, those are just losers, or whatever. Those are people who can't make friends." Actually, the data suggests that the vast majority of lonely people don't lack any social skills at all. It's just they found themselves in lonely situations.
You move to a new town and you don't really know anybody. How do you meet people? It's hard to meet people. The longer that persists, now the longer you've been lonely, and then ‑‑ this is the key part with the lonely and the busy and the money and the poor ‑‑ now that you're in that state, your behavior changes, and the way your behavior changes seems to keep you in that state.
There are, I think, a few ways in which your behavior changes. Scarcity draws a lot of attention to itself. That's the key finding that I think motivates everything. When you're experiencing scarcity, your mind automatically focuses on that thing. That focus brings benefits, which we talk about. But it has some costs, too, which help create the scarcity trap.
One cost, for the lonely: If you want to be interesting, the one thing you shouldn't do is really focus on the fact that “I want this person to like me.” That's going to make you very uninteresting. But the lonely, they just can't help but focus on that.
There's this beautiful study in which subjects speak into a microphone and they either think that someone else listening to them, or they think they're just talking. Among the non-lonely, there's very little difference in how third parties would rate subjects’ responses. A third party rates subjects as equally interesting in both conditions. Yet lonely people become less interesting when they think someone is listening. It's sort of a choking effect. That's one kind of scarcity trap.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2013/09/13/being-poor-changes-your-thinking-about-everything/

Interesting little study

"Most lonely people don't lack social skills. They just find themselves in lonely situations. However, loneliness can create a behavioral trap whereby lonely people focus on “I want this person to like me” in social situations, making themselves uninteresting to others in the process."
[i]
Another tragic example concerns lonely people. The lonely are interesting because it’s so tempting to say: "Oh, lonely people. Yeah, those are just losers, or whatever. Those are people who can't make friends." Actually, the data suggests that the vast majority of lonely people don't lack any social skills at all. It's just they found themselves in lonely situations.
You move to a new town and you don't really know anybody. How do you meet people? It's hard to meet people. The longer that persists, now the longer you've been lonely, and then ‑‑ this is the key part with the lonely and the busy and the money and the poor ‑‑ now that you're in that state, your behavior changes, and the way your behavior changes seems to keep you in that state.
There are, I think, a few ways in which your behavior changes. Scarcity draws a lot of attention to itself. That's the key finding that I think motivates everything. When you're experiencing scarcity, your mind automatically focuses on that thing. That focus brings benefits, which we talk about. But it has some costs, too, which help create the scarcity trap.
One cost, for the lonely: If you want to be interesting, the one thing you shouldn't do is really focus on the fact that “I want this person to like me.” That's going to make you very uninteresting. But the lonely, they just can't help but focus on that.
There's this beautiful study in which subjects speak into a microphone and they either think that someone else listening to them, or they think they're just talking. Among the non-lonely, there's very little difference in how third parties would rate subjects’ responses. A third party rates subjects as equally interesting in both conditions. Yet lonely people become less interesting when they think someone is listening. It's sort of a choking effect. That's one kind of scarcity trap.[/i]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2013/09/13/being-poor-changes-your-thinking-about-everything/

Interesting little study

Poision Envy

2016-01-11 03:35:29 am

Club 27 Goals

Rest in Peace, you magnificent bastard

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 05:50:28 am

bowie?

Firenukes777

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2016-01-11 08:49:03 am

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 10:53:50 am

a friend of mine knew him, they happened to be recording in the same studio in Switzerland and my friend got to play bass on one of his tracks

Firenukes777

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Firenukes777: 2019-06-04 08:21:30 am

2016-01-11 10:59:23 am

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 10:59:51 am

yeah that's what I thought when he told me haha

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 11:02:07 am

he played in bands for years and years though so he encountered quite a few semi-famous people over that time

he works on audio stuff for playstation europe now

Firenukes777

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Firenukes777: 2019-06-04 08:21:21 am

2016-01-11 11:04:08 am

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 11:05:59 am

well there's not that much difference between doing that and being in a band, it's not like there's some minimum standard you need to have achieved in order to play some songs with some friends, you just do it

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 11:07:40 am

I played bass guitar in a band for a little while and it's something I kind of wish I'd started doing when I was a bit younger even though I wasn't as good a player back then

Firenukes777

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Firenukes777: 2019-06-04 08:20:51 am

2016-01-11 11:09:47 am

DJGrenola

2016-01-11 11:12:21 am

yeah finding participants is often the tricky part, although I guess the internet makes it easier these days

they're also difficult things to keep together, people always have other priorities and if you have, say, four people in the band the chance that one of them will quit for some reason is quite high

it's worth it though