social topic

2015-11-20 10:20:46 pm

see poision some months ago I told you you weren't going to get married and you told me I was "just being a cynical asshole for no reason".

at the time I just dropped it. I'm not in the business of saying "I told you so", but: "cynical", yes, and with good reason. "asshole", maybe a little. but "for no reason" is the part you definitely got wrong.

DJGrenola

2015-11-20 10:24:49 pm

you know some years ago I read the abstract of some academic paper which looked at chemical changes in the brain that take place in people who are in the early stages of romantic love. I forget the details but the discovery was that the changes in neurotransmitters that occur when people are in that early stage of infatuation are identical to those in people who have OCD.

there are different ways you can interpret that but basically the thing I took away from it is that love is just another form of mental illness, with all the problems that entails.

DJGrenola

2015-11-20 10:42:10 pm

fascinating bit of research honestly. I can't believe it didn't get more publicity.

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 12:08:49 am

time for some risk of rain on my lovely new TV

Poision Envy

2015-11-21 12:13:39 am

Club 27 Goals

If thigns had continued, I see no reason why marriage would've been out of the option. Things just drastically changed on her end, unfortunately.

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 01:49:18 am

eh well I won't labour the point

huh, it's snowing

BioSpark

2015-11-21 01:50:00 am

better now than during marriage, i suppose

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 01:55:46 am

hope we don't get a really cold winter this year, they're so goddamned tedious

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 01:58:00 am

the coldest one we've had in years happened to coincide with the time I was trying to buy a house. that was really no fun at all, cycling around house viewings in all that ice

came off my bike several times, really lethal conditions

BioSpark

2015-11-21 01:59:18 am

heh i moved from chicago to seattle last year and seattle had one of its hottest years on record. there's no way i'd ever live somewhere colder again

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 01:59:51 am

well the good news is everywhere is getting warmer!

(not actually good news)

BioSpark

2015-11-21 02:00:27 am

i could probably live anywhere that doesn't get snow. it's just a pain in the ass to deal with

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 02:01:08 am

yeah agreed

great when you're a kid, awful if you actually want to get anything done

arkarian

2015-11-21 03:03:25 am

red chamber dream

i like it if only because it's pretty, i'm glad i live in a place that gets it

yeah it sucks when you have to drive in it though

ryu

2015-11-21 04:18:46 am

I don't know about failing college, but you're still only 22. Don't beat yourself up too much about it just yet. If you say you never managed to get shit done, that's because you never had any motivation to do so. I don't think many people slug through college for their own sake, just because they really want that degree. if Most people were disciplined, we'd be living in a different world. What makes people push through is wanting to fulfill another's expectations. It's often for their parents, some other family members or even the teaching staff at college or uni.

And didn't you say earlier about how you quit college to pick up at a later date? If you knew you were going to put that stuff off beforehand, it's no wonder that you couldn't be motivated to do anything.

Opium

Edit history:

Opium: 2015-11-21 11:58:32 am

2015-11-21 11:29:22 am

I think going to college in your mid 20's is the perfect time. Going right out of HS I think is too young for most people because they're not ready. I'm not saying they're not bright enough, I'm saying that they're not ready to let go of the freedom of youth. I don't think it's good for an 18 year old to go straight to college and then straight to a career. You need to spend a few more years having fun and figuring out who you are first. Unfortunately that experience can sidetrack people so much that they get lost, but I still think it's better.

You're 22. Going to (or going back) to college should definitely be one thing that you're certain you're going to do.

DJGrenola

2015-11-21 01:46:00 pm

it's a tough call if you're going to do a technical subject like I did because you really get rusty if you take a few years out

arkarian

2015-11-21 02:06:30 pm

red chamber dream

to me, college was the time when i had the most fun in my life (first two years) but also when i learned stuff (last 1.5 years)

i think it depends on the person

arkarian

2015-11-21 03:10:39 pm

red chamber dream

hmm this man in the high castle show looks p. cool .... alternate history where the nazis and japanese won wwii and took over america

BioSpark

2015-11-21 05:07:43 pm

i dunno about that opium. i figure the sooner i get my degree, the sooner i can start making big bucks. then i can do all the fun stuff that requires money (traveling, etc)

Poision Envy

2015-11-21 05:45:29 pm

Club 27 Goals

http://thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=penn_teller_bullshit

haha, neat.

Opium

2015-11-22 12:54:04 am

Quote from BioSpark:

i dunno about that opium. i figure the sooner i get my degree, the sooner i can start making big bucks. then i can do all the fun stuff that requires money (traveling, etc)

I guess if you're planning on making big bucks right away then that makes sense. Seems like a lot of people don't make big bucks right out of college, it takes many years to get to big bucks, and by then you're too old and tired to enjoy the big bucks.

Poision Envy

2015-11-22 04:16:38 am

Club 27 Goals

as I sat in the shower, contemplating the idea of death, and indulging in some narcotics, I realized something about myself, and I realized what I did wrong, and I realized everything that happened.

DJGrenola

2015-11-22 04:19:10 am

I bet that belgian terrorist who's currently on the run is probably doing something very similar right now

Poision Envy

2015-11-22 04:19:24 am

Club 27 Goals

I've honestly had a mind-blowing epiphany. The entire reason the relationship fell through, and more. It was because of two little things. Firstly, I expected too much. I expected all her free time to be spent with me. I expected her to want to include me for every activity. And secondly, in relation to the first, I didn't have the self-confidence to understand when she didn't.

When she wanted to spend time with other people without me, it wasn't because she was sick of me, or thought they were better people, it was simply because they're a different KIND of person than me. She didn't think they were funnier, she just thought they were a different kind of funny. I had such a lack of self-confidence that the only thing I could think of when she would want to spend time with other people was that I wasn't good enough